Volleyball is not girly.

As an aging NCAA DI volleyball player, I have to admit, I was pretty stoked when I saw espnW wrote an article titled, "Why volleyball -- not basketball -- is winning the popular vote" -- but my smile quickly turned to a scowl as I read deeper and deeper into the piece. 

In particular, I felt like someone sucker punched me in the face when I read this quote by Mike Flynn, editor of the national recruiting newsletter Blue Star Report and "a longtime authority on girls' basketball."

 

"You go where you see success and where you have access to success. Basketball is a hard sport to master. Unless you're willing to put in the time and effort and have a certain level of athleticism and hand-eye skills, you will not be successful. You will be pushed out of the sport because of what it demands. In volleyball and lacrosse, those barriers are lower."

 

Smh... My blood is boiling right now. My heart actually starts racing a little bit when I read over that quote.

Basketball is an incredible sport, and without question, it requires an insane amount of talent and athletic ability to be successful at it. But the same goes for volleyball. 

What does Mike Flynn know about volleyball and the skills required to be successful? No, I really want to know. The article says he is an authority for girls' basketball. Then why are you making such miserable commentary about volleyball? 

Mr. Flynn, do you have any idea how incredibly hard it is to master volleyball? Have you played before? Have you ever touched a ball before? Then why are you insulting us?

Just like basketball, and frankly, most sports -- it takes years to hone your skills. It requires long practices in the gym (or in the sand), multiple times a week. Approaching, hitting, serving, digging, passing, setting -- it may not look hard -- but do you understand, to play at a high level, a very specific form for each skill must be mastered. None of that is learned overnight. In fact, players will spend a lifetime trying to perfect each skill. The ladies on the Olympic teams make it look easy, because their movements are finally fluid and graceful, after years of coaches scrutinizing and refining their form, spending countless hours ironing out imperfections and flaws. 

And hand-eye skills? ...We have to hit a ball that is set to us and then somehow angle it around a block, away from diggers. I mean, really? Do I need to even go on. And don't even get me started on timing -- oh my goodness -- that takes time to get down right. 

 

Mr. Flynn's  quote and some parts of this article are just offensive and hurtful. 

I remember being a 6'2" gangly, awkward teen -- having to choose between volleyball and basketball. And everyone chooses their own path for different reasons and I don't think one sport is better or harder than the other -- but I chose volleyball because it required work. I had to learn how to control my body. I had to learn how to do more than just jump high. I had to learn how to swing hard and sharp, think fast, move quickly, use strategy. I had to bleed and I had to sweat just as hard as any other high school or DI collegiate athlete.

During my prime, I lifted heavy. I did olympic-style weightlifting like the rest of them. In fact, I made the Binghamton University Weights board for hang clean.

I did agility drills and sprints constantly so I could close the block and I could rush in for a "quick" with ease.

I worked my way through a partially-torn PCL, ripping nearly every ligament in my right ankle, impingement in my shoulder and chronic knee pain -- all of those ailments afflicting me when I was just 16 years old. 

I am tired of hearing that volleyball is easy. I am sick and tired of it.

It is not a "girly" sport. I was/am a nerdy tom boy  -- I could care less about germs and bows -- or whatever nonsense this article was trying to insinuate. 

More young women are choosing to play volleyball because it is tough, competitive, fierce and fun. That's it, Mr. Flynn. That's it. 

And if you really think volleyball is that easy -- go try jump serving. Shouldn't be that hard for you since, in your opinion, volleyball's "barriers are lower" when it comes to "athleticism" and "hand-eye skills" -- What a joke. 

But no seriously -- can you film yourself trying -- because that will undoubtedly go viral and I can't wait to watch. 

As for the young women out there who are thinking about volleyball, I can tell you right now it is my life and my passion. I am 30 years old and I still play as much as I can -- indoor, sand, grass -- whatever. And believe me , I still have not mastered it. It's the sport you can always get better at -- truly.

Volleyball changed my life. Playing in high school and college, it brings back memories that make me tear up! My teammates are my  "ride or die" sisters. I am still friends with some of my biggest rivals in college on Facebook! I still hold close to my  heart some of my biggest wins and hardest losses. I've learned what is necessary (mentally and physically) to perform under pressure, I've learned how to work with a large group of people harmoniously, I've learned how to push myself to another level, to the edge, to get what I want and I have experienced the highest highs while on that volleyball court.

ESPN, Volleyball is not girly. It is not any less athletic.

It is just awesome, lol.

That's why it's winning the "popular vote". 

Diamonds, Parallelograms, & Flowers -- Oh my!

This Geo-Floral Dress ($56 via Le Tote) from Charlie Jade is wild and fun! I love the colors, I love the funky pattern -- interweaving diamonds, parallelograms and flowers.

I mean this dress, matched with the Camilla Lace Stretch Choker ($18 via Le Tote) and Sondra Roberts Zipper Front Mini Satchel ($50 via Le Tote) -- I just felt like walking straight to a music festival or a fun night on the town.

I get it -- the design can be a little intimidating -- especially when you look at it up close. But from a distance, it really just looked like a nice floral dress. Then when people got closer, many actually complimented me on the ornamentation! Comfortable, yet chic. Really loved this outfit! 

Where's my pink convertible?

Le Tote: Anne Klein Double V Fit & Flare ($45), Ava Enamel Link Bracelet ($5), Sondra Roberts Quilted Nylon Crossbody ($19)

Le Tote: Anne Klein Double V Fit & Flare ($45), Ava Enamel Link Bracelet ($5), Sondra Roberts Quilted Nylon Crossbody ($19)

I feel like a Barbie Doll in this outfit. 

The accessories are so glam. The dress colors pop! And the design is classy, yet fun...

I had way too much fun walking around in this. Each item made me smile so big. Ladies and gentleman -- you know how it feels when you just feel so on-point. This ensemble did that for me :)

I have a strange style. Sometimes I'm a little grittier and edgier with my personal look. Then my business attire is clean and simple. I really don't like to go over the top too much.

But I embraced the unicorn colors and trotted around with pride. This outfit made my heart sing, I felt like I was part of an old musical -- compelled to dance, frolic, spin and swirl.

I learned that sprinkling some bright colors into your wardrobe can really brighten your mood. So while baby pink, magenta and cyan are -- frankly -- never my go to colors,  I'm glad I gave them a try.

Maybe the bright colored outfits is why Barbie's always smiling, haha!? 

 

 

Comfy + Modern + Hippie = This.

Sondra Roberts, Acrylic Printed Clutch ($15) -- Splendid, Chevron Wrap Dress ($29) -- Jessica Simpson, Coin Stretch Bracelet ($28) 

Sondra Roberts, Acrylic Printed Clutch ($15) -- Splendid, Chevron Wrap Dress ($29) -- Jessica Simpson, Coin Stretch Bracelet ($28) 

Had way too much fun with this outfit. Decided to just throw together a bunch of items from my Le Tote package -- that I typically wouldn't match together!

The Splendid Chevron Wrap Dress, while is great for the office, is incredibly comfortable and I mainly wore it around the house. But I decided to dress it up with this flamboyantly ornate Sondra Roberts Acrylic Printed Clutch. And then I tossed in the Jessica Simpson Coin Stretch bracelet that I find very Boho. Comfy + Modern + Hippie = This.

To top it all of, this adorable hat from Forever 21 that I bought years ago. Gotta love that store. 

I guess I just really liked this outfit because I just didn't care and took a chance on it and ended up liking the result. So don't be afraid to add together A + B + C  --- and just C what happens ;)  

Boho with BCBGeneration

BCBGeneration - Boho Off Shoulder Dress via Le Tote ($54) 

BCBGeneration - Boho Off Shoulder Dress via Le Tote ($54) 

Boho, bro! Comfortable, beautiful, unique. I need more of this in my closet. I took a risk and instead of going with my typical business attire, I requested this BCBGeneration Boho Off Shoulder Dress from LeTote ($54).

As many of you know, I am nearly 6'2" so I just get scared whenever I see these flowy dresses. How is it going to look on me? Like a shirt? Will the billowy sleeves cut off at my elbow...#TallGirlProblems

Fortunately, with this dress, the sleeves fell mid-forearm. I thought it really flattered my figure with a belt. And -- well -- everything's a little short on me, let's be real, but the length was not bad! Great find for warmer weather!

It was comfortable, adorable and it showed off the shoulders but was not too revealing. Fun and flirty. So...the Boho look from BCBGeneration -- go on with your bad self. 

Tahari goes Tropical

Graphic Palm Dress $63 via Le Tote

Graphic Palm Dress $63 via Le Tote

Elie Tahari dresses are just clutch. I have so many in my closet. The fabric is always nice, they have great colors and patterns. They always fit nicely and are great for work. They create incredible business attire.

The latest Le Tote did not fail, delivering this little number. The Graphic Palm Dress only costs $63 dollars and it's got a fun pattern, that's not too over the top and there's so much black in the dress that it's still very slimming! 

It also has a great wrap -- and y'all know what I think about wrap dresses ;) Another great piece from Tahari, with a little tropical flair. 

 

P.S. Did you like how we had palm vegetation in the background, while sporting the "Graphic Palm Dress"... eh , eh? Hehehe!

Leota for the win!

Leota's bio on their Instagram page reads, "We do perfect dresses, made in the USA. Always flattering, never wrinkling." 

Sounds too good to be true, but it's true. LeTote sent me the "Sweetheart Cut Dress" (on sale for $69) and this dress fit perfectly, comfortably, and I absolutely loved this color blue and the pixelated pink, white and black design was really cool.

And flattering is right! Obviously, every woman has a different body type, but for me, my best asset (in my opinion) is my collar bone and if it cannot be seen, then I flat out no the dress will not look good at me. This has a great cut, it almost fit like a wrap dress (which wrap dresses look great on pretty much every body type). I really liked how it looked.

The material was soft, stretchy and comfy, but not too sheer -- thick and strong. I really want to try out more of their dresses. Easily, one of my favorite dresses from LeTote so far.

Preppy Patterns

My personal style is not "preppy". It just isn't. When I am at work, I wear business attire. But I usually steer clear of blouses, polos and dresses that I think I'd see my mom wearing at one of her tennis matches.

However, Le Tote sent me a couple dresses recently that I thought I was going to hate, but I actually really liked them. The "Printed Shift Dress" from AVA ($58 on sale at Le Tote) popped to me. I loved the pink, loved the black and white pattern, the design.

This "Keyhole Block Neck Dress" from London Times ($68 on sale at Le Tote) also had a stunning pattern -- and I LOVE green.

So, despite my leanings for edgier, trendier outfits, I adored these preppy patterns!